I’m going to a kitchen tea tomorrow, and have been asked to write down a piece of advice for the bride. I think this is a lovely tradition, but there is still a tiny part of me that thinks it’s too old-fashioned.

How come the girls celebrate by offering the bride advice on how to maintain the peace in her marriage and keep her husband happy, and the boys celebrate by ogling half-naked women? Why does the woman need to be told, again and again, that “you should never go to bed angry”? Surely if she’s angry, HE needs the advice “you should never let her go to bed angry”! I just don’t like the notion that it’s up to the woman to make things right, when it takes two in a marriage.

Rant over!